What to do with Wedding Gifts After the Big Day

So, you’ve just said “I Dos,” danced your heart out at the reception, and now you’re staring at a mountain of wedding gifts. You’re feeling the love, but also... how in the world do you handle all this stuff? Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. Here’s your post-wedding gift guide, complete with tips on returning, organizing thank-you notes, and managing that sweet cash stash you just scored.

Step 01 | Returning or Exchanging Gifts (Because...well, it happens)

Let’s face it—no matter how much thought and care went into your wedding registry, some gifts are just... not your style. Maybe Aunt Marge got you a blender that definitely doesn’t match your kitchen vibe or your best friend got you something you already have five of. It’s okay. You’re not going to hurt anyone’s feelings, promise.

Here’s how to gracefully handle returns and exchanges:

1. Check the Return Policy

   Before you start making trips to stores with your stack of receipts, take a moment to check the return policies for each gift. Many retailers will allow you to return items within a certain time frame (usually 30 days) as long as they’re unused and in the original packaging for store credit, which is great if you're planning on splurging later.
   

2. Be Honest, but Gracious

   If you’re not into the gift and want to exchange it, honesty is the best policy—but keep it kind. For example, instead of saying “This gift is totally not my style,” you could say, “Thank you so much! This isn’t quite what we had in mind, but we love that you thought of us. We’re going to exchange it for something else we’ll get tons of use out of!” See? Still sweet, still true.
   

3. Don’t Rush the Returns

   Post-wedding life is already busy, so you might not be in the mood to hit every store. Don’t stress if it takes you a little while to get to those returns. It’s not a race, and most stores will let you return items after the wedding frenzy settles down.

Step 02 | Thank-You Notes (Yes, They're a Thing)

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Okay, deep breath. The thank-you notes. They’re important. They’re a must. And yes, we’re all about doing them right. But you can make it easier and less daunting by breaking it down and tackling it step-by-step.

Here's how to turn those "thank-yous" into something a little less stressful:

1. Write Them in Batches

   If the thought of writing dozens of thank you notes sounds like a nightmare, break it into smaller chunks. Write a few each day, maybe while sipping your morning coffee or binge-watching your favorite show. You’ll get through them quicker than you think—and each note will feel more personal since you’re taking your time.
   

2. Personalize, but Don't Overthink It

   It’s great to personalize your thank you notes with details about how you’ll use the gift (like “I can't wait to try out that blender you gave us! We’ll be making smoothies all month!”) but don’t stress about writing a novel. A couple of sentences that show your appreciation will do just fine. It’s the thought that counts.
   

3. Keep Track of Gifts as They Come In

   Start making a list as soon as you receive gifts, so you don’t forget who gave what. Whether you keep it in your phone, a notebook or a cute wedding planner, keeping track will make writing those notes a breeze. Bonus: You’ll have everything ready for when you start to write the cards!
   

4. Don't Wait Too Long

   While you don’t need to send them out the day after the wedding, aim to send your thank you notes within three months. This way, your gratitude still feels fresh and your guests will appreciate the thoughtful gesture. And don’t forget: It’s the little things, like your signature or a fun doodle, that will make your note extra special.

Step 03 | Cash Gifts (How to Allocate that Sweet Cash Stash)

Ah, the cash gifts. The glorious, flexible, “we can spend this however we want” kind of gifts. But how do you make sure you allocate that money wisely without blowing it all on a spontaneous shopping spree?

Here’s the breakdown on managing cash gifts:

1. Set Financial Goals

   Before you start spending, sit down with your partner and discuss your financial priorities. Do you want to put the cash toward a honeymoon fund, save for a house or finally tackle that stack of student loans? Setting clear goals will make the money feel more intentional and less like an impulsive “let’s buy a new couch” decision.
   

2. Consider a Joint Account

   If you and your partner have a joint bank account, this is an easy option. You can deposit the cash into your shared account and use it for whatever financial goals you agree on. If you have separate accounts, it’s still totally fine to deposit the funds into either of your accounts—just make sure you’re on the same page about how you’ll use it.
   

3. Treat Yo' Self (But Within Reason)

   It’s totally okay to treat yourselves! If you’ve been eyeing that fancy espresso machine or want to book a post-wedding getaway, cash gifts give you the flexibility to splurge a little. Just make sure it’s balanced—don’t go too wild, or you might regret it when you’re dealing with your credit card bill next month.
   

4. Think About Charitable Donations

   Some couples choose to allocate a portion of their cash gifts to a cause they care about. If that feels right for you, consider donating to a charity or cause in your guests' names. It’s a thoughtful way to share the love and make your wedding gifts feel even more meaningful.

Step 04 | Wrapping It Up (Because You've Got This!)

You’ve received the gifts, sorted through the returns and (almost) completed your thank-you notes. Now it’s time to sit back, relax and enjoy your newlywed bliss. The wedding may be over, but the memories (and the gifts) are here to stay.

With a little planning and a whole lot of gratitude, you’ll turn the post-wedding gift process into a smooth and enjoyable experience. And hey, who doesn’t love a good gift? Especially when you get to keep it.

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